It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

What an excellent explanation, guide and interpretation of exactly what grief is, how it causes trauma sensations to your body and mind and how to process and progress through it on a daily basis.Megan Divine has done a magnificent job in compiling all of this information while clearly explaining it.She also has many excellent pod casts, I’ve probably watch all of them and are excellent as well. She also teaches from both technical knowledge and personal experience. I would love to meet her, what a compassionate and understanding person she appears to be and if you are interested in learning more or dealing with your own grief or how to support others who are experiencing grief, you need to read this book.

I love this book, starting from the title that it gives you permission to not feel ok. As you read it, you learn why it's ok to not be ok, to acknowledge that all emotions are valid and matter. It resonates with me so much because I've seen this in therapy.

We Lost our daughter about a month ago. I have been reading a lot of books on grief. I really appreciated this one because it wasn't religious and it gives me the strength to give myself quiet time, space that I need to grieve. Been watching the authors short video clips on facebook as well. She just gets it.

This was the book I needed after losing my spouse. There is honesty, useful exercises, but not too many. The chapters are well divided so can can bite what you can handle at any time.

The book is practical and easy to understand. Although the reader may know many of these things, at times, it is nice to be reminded of them.

As a grief counselor I have recommended many different reading resources to my clients. This book has been the most helpful and effective resource I’ve used. My clients always have positive feedback that is specific to their support, needs, and journey. I highly recommend it and would suggest it as a gift along with a sympathy card. Much more to offer than flowers or a plant.

This book should be an instruction manual for Life, not only losing a loved one! The book feels so accurate in my feelings and experiences. It’s helpful and effective, even encouraging, in gaining understanding and validity, and the ability to move forward successfully. It has been the truest reflection of everything I have felt about my life and every issue I’ve been through. I’ve experienced childhood trauma, medical and emotional difficulties, and multiple family deaths, including the sudden, unexpected loss of my 54 year old husband. I’ve never found the support I truly need from family or friends, and I’ve seen poor therapists until only recently finding, through persistence, someone valid and supportive. What I’ve felt, what I’ve received as ‘support’ from people around me, the results… all of it put me in a terrible place, with me believing so much was my fault, I was a horrible person, and I could never pick up the pieces. But when you can finally feel that you are valid in your feelings and even understand those around you, you can begin to overcome; and even eventually help others overcome in their times of need. A couple times I’ve discussed with my therapist what I’m learning from the book to get her feedback and perspective, which is always positive, and also in hopes she’ll read it because anyone can gain insight from it. Quoted from the book: “Many grieving people feel like they’re on another planet, or wish they could go to one. Somewhere there are others like them. People who understand.”

This book was very insightful and helpful in understanding grief and loss from different perspectives. I recommended this book to my Sorors after sharing the book I was currently reading! I hope others enjoy it as much as I did!!