Emily Post's Etiquette, 19th Edition: Manners for Today (Emily's Post's Etiquette) Hardcover – Illustrated, April 25, 2017

In forty years, I have bought this book for every friend or relative who graduates from High School. I always tell them that it will help them in life and to use it as a reference book. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink it!!! Some (even the guys) claim it has been very useful. Others, I can tell, have never opened it. Too bad and sad for them. My own son swears by it.

Nice book, but wow, it's so thick!!! But it gives manners for any occasion you may encounter!

I bought this book for my granddaughter. It will give her valuable information to use and apply for her life. Good manners and integrity are here to be read and used.

Good manners change with the times. Sometimes we wish the old manners were still practiced, but so-called modern manners do not necessarily indicate a lack of standards. One purpose of etiquette in a social setting is to see that everyone in the group has a chance to have a good time. That will never change, even though the rules of formality may be different.

This is the updated Bible of modern etiquette and a must have reference book for anyone who still cares about proper behavior and decorum in any situation. This should be a required tool for the modern person as it covers every topic you’re likely to encounter today & how to deal with style & grace! My Go To guide. I love to give it as a gift!

(Background): Emily Post was an American journalist whose seminal work ETIQUETTE IN SOCIETY, IN BUSINESS, IN POLITICS, AND AT HOME was first published in 1922. While nobody today would refer to it for advice on getting along in society (however construed), it remains a fascinating read for its insights into 1920's New York City social life and socializing, and for its not inconsiderable use of humor in getting the author's advice across. Emily Post founded the Emily Post Institute in 1946, and under those auspices EMILY POST'S ETIQUETTE, NINETEENTH EDITION, has now appeared. Although it is a convention in publishing to proclaim each new model of an ongoing work "fully" or "completely" revised, this one is not -- not could it or should it be. Specifically, this one shows direct lineage from the Seventeenth Edition of 2004. (The intervening Eighteenth edition dates from 2011 -- these updates appear with some regularity.) The new Nineteenth shows emergence of two of Emily's great-great-grandchildren (yes, two greats), Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning, as sole authors. That's an awful lot of lineage but then, it has been 95 years since the original ETIQUETTE appeared.On the whole I think the new Nineteenth is a good and useful book. Readers will find the same good sense as in predecessor editions with advice in how to converse with new acquaintances in both social and business settings (it forthrightly advocates a healthy dose of "small talk" in the beginning), and the whole huge field of behavior in and around weddings receives its due. Happily, an illustration in the book showed me, finally, how to fit my writing to the now-dominant “informal” type of folded card, should I wish to depart from the old “Monarch”-sized sheet that served me so well for so many years. What is notable is the larger field given to electronic social media like Facebook, what behaviors to emulate and which to avoid, and better yet, why. I was a bit surprised to see that the rules on when and when not to remove a hat required a full table, when it's pretty apparent that little has changed: women who wear fancy hats don't take them off except to avoid blocking someone's view or for their own comfort; women who wear the nearly ubiquitous visored "baseball" cap, just like men, take them off when indoors. (Granted, "indoors" in an era of domed stadiums and climatized shopping malls needs extra construction.)This latest book is going to be very helpful to those who use it; however, like most such etiquette guides it is written from the perspective of its authors, therefore aimed mainly at young adults or married young adults with families. It is gentle and kind, and written with a smile, does not shy away from most hot-button topics yet contains remarkably little humor. I miss the old general-purpose guides like MISS MANNERS' GUIDE TO EXCRUCIATINGLY CORRECT BEHAVIOR (a book that so embodied humor even its title is a bit humorous) -- or, for that matter, the original 1922 Emily Post ETIQUETTE with its endearingly annoying types like "Mr. Gotrox" or "Mrs. Toplofty" who exemplify bad behavior whatever their intentions. Lately a kind of alt-field of etiquette books has emerged, the kind written for well-intentioned people who occasionally use the "F" word, so to speak -- those have LOTS of humor, much of it sardonic. Sadly, none of the literature I've consulted speaks directly to a concern of mine: When did it become rude to telephone neighbors and friends spontaneously at home, well before bedtime? My purpose is not to proclaim how old-fashioned or obstinate I may be, but simply to avoid causing pain -- and what I can do about it. This is supposed to be a central concern of etiquette.A note that did not influence my rating: I ordered and paid for the thumb-indexed version, but instead received the "smooth" one..

It doesn't get much better than Emily Post when you want to know what is expected in society. Daniel Post-Senning and Lizzie Post have updated this book to meet modern needs, while adhering to old standards where they still apply. No more do women come second to men in etiquette. Yes, you can learn to use your cell phone in such a way that it is not annoying to others.Using the old mantra of "Consideration, Respect, and Honesty", the authors and editors have applied that manner of behavior to modern life. It's not all about what fork to use - this is equally applicable to those of us who are far more prone to casual barbecues and informal invitations as it is those who find themselves needing to understand specifics of formal dining and fancy occasions.Great for recent graduates, along with Lizzie Post's "How Do You Work This Life Thing?"

Beautiful! I buy these for girls graduating from high school. I tell them hang in to it, you’ll need it one day—either to figure out how to avoid embarrassment in your career or just how to address wedding invitation envelopes! Or which stemware goes with which wine or alcohol. :) you can also be entertained by some of the more ridiculous formality practices.I took the picture to show the jacket is a beautiful matte texture pearl finish with mirror silver embossing and turquoise varnish.