Spoiled: Fresh Ideas For Parenting Your Entitled Child -- At Any Age

I thought the "entitled child" was the one throwing the fit in the grocery store aisle and being give candy to make them stop until I read this book... The book is a true eye opener and the book is a MUST read for anyone that has children in their life (parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc.)!! I have to stand up and being counted as a parent that has raised not one but two entitled children.What I thought I was doing "out of love" for my kids; handling their battles, interfering to make sure they didn't do poorly in a class or assignment wasn't really what was best for them. Yes as parents we do have the role to guide and instruct them yet I now know there is a line and I crossed it. They need to fall down on their own and learn to get up, to have a friendship get ugly and either fix it on their own or learn to move on, to hide (in other words do it myself) the missed chore from Daddy so they wouldn't get in trouble... I hope you are getting my point. So in my efforts or trying to help I was in reality "hurting" them... I know - YIKES!! You may be wondering how is that "hurting them". Well they now how this false expectation of how the world is going to treat them - The world is always going to be nice and the world is always going to look after them and take care of them. SO NOT TRUE!!!What I am realizing as a parent is when my kids say; "I hate you", or "You don't get it", or "You are the WORST mom in the world" I am actually doing my job and doing it well. Being a parent is not about being popular it is about being a leader. Yes our children need to be protected but NOT at the expensive of them developing their character, integrity, compassion, since of responsibility and leadership skills. The children of today are tomorrow's leaders and as adults we need to seriously look at the problem. It's not the kids - it's us - the adults!Peggy genteelly, yet matter-a-factly, takes you through scenarios and practical solutions so as the adult we are empowered to be the PARENT/CARE GIVER. I have to admit many parts of the book were hard to swallow - but I SO needed to hear it!As a mother of a 17 year old and 19 year old I now know it's not too late. I want my kids to be productive members of society and I know have many of the needed tools to help with the process. Thanks Peggy for loving kids and our country enough to stand up and speak the truth.

Spoiled is a book written by a parent for parents so that we may all benefit from a more productive and pleasant community where people are responsible for their own actions. Peggy Harper Lee accurately points out that this process of learning responsibility for our actions starts at home, with parents as the guides. The book maintains an empathetic and direct tone while teaching the skills for recognizing the entitlement, dealing with our own reactions, and then doing something to encourage children (of any age) to be responsible for their own actions. These skills are easy to implement in daily interactions so that parents are released from working so hard, often out of love and the best intentions, to enable the lifestyles of their children.This book is not just for parents! Spoiled has tips which are applicable for any relationship in which one party assumes the responsibility of the other party's actions. Spoiled friends, family members, and significant others are often in relationships with individuals who feel taken advantage of, exhausted, and/or neglected. Whether the reader is the "spoiled" or the "spoilee", this book has great insights into the process of improving the quality of relationships.

This book will not only give you a new perspective on how you interact with your kids, but it's a foundation for transforming our culture. I'm a great Mom, but I also know that I have spoiling tendencies and weak boundaries. After reading Peggy's book, I learned to take stronger action with boundaries and not give in even when my kids are wearing me down. The increased respect I've gained from my kids in the last couple of months has been tremendous. They still try to push, but the time in between my "no", a temper tantrum, and us getting back to fun has shortened significantly. We are all so much happier and with far more peaceful moments.

Wow! Is all I can say. This book is VERY enlightening. A real eye opener. Not only am I on the verge of raising an entitled child...I WAS ONE! Thank you Peggy Harper Lee for showing me that it is not too late for either of us! I highly recommend this book to everyone with children, grandchildren (because my parents were also spoiling my daughter) or if you ever were a child. Yes, an adult without a child will also learn about themselves reading this book. It's amazing. Not only have I become a better parent, I have also become a better person.

As a financial advisor, I read this book to better equip myself to aid clients whose retirements were being compromised by their own adult children's inability to support themselves. Along the way, I recognized potential issues with my own kids, aged six and four. In the end, if I apply the guidelines outlined in this book, I will not only be able to help my clients with their adult children, but also raise my own young children in a manner that assures my wife and I will have self-supporting adult children during our retirement years.

The most useful word for parents to know, and it isn't "no!" It's "OH". Tells the child, you've been heard, and I'm not arguing! How I wish I'd had this years ago. I've started to implement and the reaction is priceless. I so wish I had hidden cameras! This book is chock full of immediately useful tidbits like "oh", on how to shift your parenting to help you child be more self sufficient in the world. Get it today, be happier forever!

Peggy has hit the nail on the head with this book. It really opened my eyes to what an "entitled child" is and how to best raise them. The most powerful word to use with a child is not "No" but "Oh". It is amazing the difference that little word makes. Every parent, grandparent, aunt and uncle needs to read this book and it doesn't matter how old the child(ren) are.

Before I came across this book I sort off had the idea of things that I was doing wrong and was maybe scared of facing..the fact that my lovely 3 children had some degree of entitlement despite me thinking I wasn't spoiling them. I then realize with his book that my personal error was with delayed gratification! It just want there..my children did not think they had to earn things in this life as at their ealy ages already saying things such as...i want this toy because my friend has one and I want one!! Arggg yes... I completely agree with the principles of this book and can only say that since reading it and putting my parent pants on (which before likely were on my knees! As sad as it sounds) i can communicate better with my children, feel definitely more respect from them not to mention they show gratefulness more often for what they have rather than dwell on what they don't .Have made me sooo much confident to tackle inapropriate behaviour even in shops where before I would be self conscious of people listening...now I actually couldn't care less if they think I am big too harsh on my children by asking appropriate behaviour rather than giving them that so cheap cake/ toy/ ice cream/ ride/ anything they wanted...just because.Overall i wil be coming back to this book to reinforce on what I believe!Thank you to the author for this amazing book now I have become a confident/ strong yet very loving parent without feeling my children will stop loving me! They actually tell me more often that they love me!!Very happy reader 😀

This booked opened my eyes as to what an entitled child actually is - an interesting and informative read. Saw a young Mum with a baby in a store and the Mum got the 'baby' to scan her credit card for her and I thought mmmm is this child going to be an entitled child ????