The Delicate Science of Making Love

What a little treasure! Although this book is similar to other love-languages books, its categories are radically different from others in its genre; anyone looking to improve connections to their romantic partner will find these categories sensible and easy to understand. Plus, the chapters are diagnostic, which makes it easy to analyze which "love ponds" are most meaningful to the relationship. I also love how Brian Nox emphasizes doing what's best for the relationship, and not just for yourself or your partner. His book seems to give hope to the idea of a long-term happily-ever-after.I found this to be such a helpful book, I'm going to buy another copy of this for my daughter, who is just starting her first long-term relationship!

Wow. That’s the first word that comes to mind about this inspirational book. How amazing to look back on every challenge I’ve ever experienced in my romantic partnerships and relationships and see the solution—so clearly!This is a book that I wanted to simultaneously devour and thoroughly study. I took so many notes! Where my eyes were previously closed, this book made me SEE the important dynamics in my relationship and how I have a lot more control than I thought.Without really even realizing it, we assume we are guilt-free in the pitfalls in our relationships and shove the blame onto our partners! I know I did. It’s always easier to pinpoint what someone else is doing wrong than to acknowledge how we play a role in it as well but getting to know my own mistakes was priceless.But this changed book ALL of that. It transformed my perspective and gave me the tools I need to nurture a loving, wonderful relationship.I love the concept of the 7 love ponds and since I’ve applied some of the strategies I’ve learned, my guy is showing his best self. I can feel he’s enjoying himself much more and he’s much more loving and open towards me. I no longer have to think or ask “what’s wrong?”, I have more certainty and if something’s up, I know what to do about it. I guess I don’t have to explain how grounded and relaxed this makes me feel.It was a very enjoyable read, and the book often made me smile (and even laugh out loud). You’ll love it.

“Communication is NOT the Holy Grail” : one of the phrases stated at the beginning of this book that drew me in. I’ve always thought-communication, communication, communication!! The key to a good relationship. But what if what’s on that person’s mind at the moment can be damaging?We first tried reading “Hold Me Tight,” which has massive great reviews. Was ok in the beginning, but somewhere in the middle things just started getting repetitive and felt like we were forcing ourselves to “communicate” but ending up just kicking a dead horse and making matters worse. There were some good things to take from it, but I found it was just not the book for us.This book goes through the 7 love ponds, similar to the “love languages.” But basically describes things that are pretty much common sense, but things we may forget when in a long term relationship. It also describes how certain love ponds are more important to your partner,and vice versa. It’s all about showing our love to our partner by paying attention to the things that matter most to them, and in turn communicating to them the things that are most important to ourselves.

If you arę struggling with you relationship, look NO FURTHER!This is it! Please don't find MEDIOCRE PSYCHOTHERAPISTS. HE IS THE ONE to answer your relationship questions. Believe me when I say: there are TERRIBLE PSYCHOTHERAPISTS who will mislead you. I had one! She coached me and I ended up getting divorce. I regret it now! Don't listen to them! READ THIS BOOK❤️

I read the entire book the day I got it. I found it very insightful and helpful. It opened up a series of conversations between my husband and I. I look forward to using the advice given in this book moving forward.

This book is fantastic in describing how to keep a loving relationship alive as long as both partners are willing to follow and apply Brian's advice. I loved how he described love languages in a different light and put them in ponds. He also included different ponds that should be languages as well. Love is complex with the more tools we have it makes it easier and Brian gives more of thse tools to use in this book. I also have read emotional intelligence; a book that Brian mentions several times in this book and gives scenarios to apply emotional intelligence in your relationships.

Very clear cut advice. I appreciate the practical advice on how to build a great relationship and will definitely use what I learned to continue to grow my love story.

I found that it was fair, but not great.

Really enjoyed the whole series. I made notes to remind myself of the love ponds and to think more team work and less enemy!

A great book. Makes so much sense. I recommend this book to anyone in a relationship who is struggling to make it work. If you want to make your relationship work but don't have a clue where to start. This book is for you.

Clever, intuitive and human guidance

Book is not about the sexual act. Its about generating genuine love when youre in relationship with a good person, in other words its safe. People in relationship with an unsafe, controlling person would benefit from Brian Nox other books instead. (& in particular books on narcissism & gaslighting by other authors) This book teaches working together as a Team to fill up each others 7 Love Ponds - emotional needs. Teaches the secrets of successful couples. Also advice on repairing a broken relationship, bringing fun back. I find all Brian Nox books helpful, teach you to value yourself highly & dont tolerate disrespect. Great teachings. All highly recommended

good book, interesting read and good information