Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair

"85% - 90% of the couples in my practice are dealing with infidelity," says marriage therapist Michele Weiner-Davis. However, unlike most therapists who are supposed to be "neutral" and "suspend any personal biases" without giving any opinions, Weiner-Davis goes against the grain. She openly gives her opinions, and admits her "pro-marriage" bias. Her popular TEDx talk on "the sex-starved marriage" has over 7 million views to date. Weiner-Davis has written several books on sex, intimacy, desire, and divorce. She is a traditionally powerful modern woman sex educator who doesn't mine her words.HEALING FROM INFEDILITY is a powerful guide to help couples rebuild trust and mend their marriage after an affair. Written by bestselling American author, marriage therapist, and relationship expert, Michele Weiner-Davis, the book provides a strong "pro-marriage" stance for couples struggling with betrayal. Weiner-Davis provides practical advice for both the betrayed and unfaithful spouse in this easy-to-read road map to help them recover from infidelity and help their marriage. The book offers a step-by-step program to help men and women learn how to deal with traumatic feelings after discovering infidelity, overcome painful memories, rebuild trust, and reconnect sexually. The author helps a betrayed spouse answer troubling questions; "Doesn't she know that this is the one thing I could never accept, a deal breaker?," "Was the other woman a better lover than I was?," "How could my wife love me and still sleep with another man?" For the unfaithful spouse, the book offers practical tips on how to avoid further affairs.Whilst she acknowledges that healing from infidelity isn't easy, she believes it is definitely possible with hard work and couples "have to be willing to do whatever it takes to turn things around." The book provides tools to help couples speak about sex and offers useful tips for affair-proofing your marriage.If you've cheated or been cheated on, and want to stay in your relationship, this is a recommended self-help book to help you reconcile and connect with your spouse again.

Highly recommend this book to be read by both partners in difficult times, it does wonders to ones marriage in the aftermath.......

This book is filled with sound and logical advice. Having been betrayed by my partner, I've spent the past 9 months in a very dark place. However, the sensible advice in this book has blown my mind. I cannot recommend it highly enough.

About to read I again straight after finishing it. Very good relationship advice and we both took a lot more on board than I ever imagined.

I am a family physician and like to review materials that can help my patients. One of the greatest promoters of health is family unity, so I am particularly interested in tools that help give ideas on how to create this, based on experience, as well as on respect for the many creative ways families consult and find solutions. The information is presented in an easy to read and encouraging way. Tasks for both the betrayed spouse and the unfaithful spouse are given, and the opportunities are presented, for, after a lot of work, a marriage to be even better than before the affair. Perhaps painful, but honest are acknowledgement of some of the good feelings that temporarily came from the affair for the unfaithful spouse. I can well imagine this being painful from the betrayed spouse's point of view, however, likely necessary to have some understanding for the eventual necessity of empathy for healing. The author does however, avoid problems of condoning affairs that a lot of materials have today. Affairs are harmful. Yet this book, which is firm on principle and flexible on the details, and not the other way around, gives a pathway to get out of the mess that people find themselves in. Highly recommended for staying on the path of excellence, understanding that mistakes are a way to learn, and the there are high, enobling standards to strive for ( that is , avoiding the unhealthy paths of perfectionism, or the other extreme of relativity/poor judgement). I found, the tips also in general applicable to dealing with any form of severe betrayal experienced in close relationships. Other books by this author are also highly recommended, I have seen many a marriage saved by them and lives improved by them. Thank you.