1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting

Brilliant. Really made a difference with our kids and a change in their behaviour. The lack of discussion after testing behaviour is so simple but crazy how effective it is when you get the knack!

“1-2-3 Magic” really works! The 3-step method is easy to follow, practical, and has made parenting calmer and more effective. Highly recommend for any parent looking for simple, actionable strategies.

After taking a 123 magic course I found it to be very similar to my parenting. But sometimes we forget not to walk into the trap of arguing etc with our little people so I refer back to this book, (not just for the reason mentioned may I add) it's very handy, quite funny if a little dated. It's helped our family tremendously.

Excellent book for parents that struggle with their children. I bought this book not for myself but to help parents get a better understanding.

We were recommended this by the SENCO at my sons school, he has ADHD and we were meant to attend the course but it was cancelled. We purchased the book for some advice to help us with our approach to parenting. I had super nanny books when the boys were toddlers but found It was lengthy and so much packed in but this book is straight to the point and so relatable! Absolutely brilliant, me and my partner sat together the night we received it and could really relate to what was on the book. We sat and wrote down a plan, then straight away started to implement techniques that were in the book, not just with our child with ADHD but with our youngest son too and working together we got there. It isn’t a quick fix or a miracle book you must stay strong and stick to what you say,if you are implementing something new we did a lot of sitting down as a family and evaluating ourselves for this to work. Our sons behaviour is a lot more settled, his behaviour as changed drastically to the point family comment on how mature he his getting and the bond we have as a family is must stronger. I would recommend for any parent with young children. Every now and again I reopen this book and refresh.

Fantastic book. I took the course and decided to get the book to help me afterwords so I had something to recap on if I forgot anything or it stopped working. I can't praise this guy enough as this works fantastic and helped us loads. It's true when they day if it stops working just recap and try again

I have been in childcare myself for years but my 7 year old has been a very challenging boy! Just reading the first chapter of this book helped me so much- it really does work! Absolutely brilliant! This book has helped us turn things around in our house and I now enjoy being a mum 😊

Having read the book, done the workbook and attended a course for it, I feel 123 Magic goes against helping children manage their emotions due to big feelings that have underlying causes that are being ignored by the 123M system. In some situations yes, it works, but we have to recognise when our kid's behaviour needs “time in” NOT “time out”. Consistent “time out” can actually be psychologically harmful, it's a rejection, a non-acceptance of how they're feeling and doesn't address the root cause for the behaviour or help the child manage their emotions or situations that upset them. I feel the lesson they learn from this is "you're wrong - go away". From my own experience raising two neurodivergent children, I have learnt that if my kids are acting out then there is a good reason for it. I feel this is very outdated, and in many cases, inappropriate action. I felt "off" reading the books and haven't put much of it into practice because I felt I needed to learn more. Now I have attended the course I feel even more uneasy about it. It doesn't address the WHY at all. It just wants to create a peaceful life for parents, which is actually quite selfish of us, we should be encouraging emotional intelligence and helping our children explore their behaviour and providing the tools they need to be better equipped to handle emotionally intense situations. I highly recommend Calm Parents, Happy Kids from the Aha, parenting website and Triple P as more effective and gentle alternatives.

Great read for self awareness and reflection as a parent. They offer creative ways of getting your thoughts out. Great price for the product and I would recommend this to any parent. Learning is never ending and it’s always nice to get more support.

We already started to apply whst’s in the book and it’s grest

Just buy it and start applying the principles . You are sure to get results.

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This book has been revolutionary for our discipline and child raising and has helped us so much. The basic idea is that you count bad behavior (i.e. "that's one") and then put the child into an age-appropriate length time out on the third count while staying calm and not talking or arguing with the child. The book has other useful tips, such as how to build a closer relationship with your child, but the consistent counting, staying calm, and timeout is the core principle. I wanted to address concerns that a time out for a child who can't self-calm is cruel. I have that child, and I'm the mom who previously tried some of the newer "time in" discipline strategies. Those did not work for us because there was no method (like the counting) to implement them the exact same way every time. I modified 123 magic in that I would not let my child tantrum for more than 10 minutes in his room (clarification that the book says to start with a minute per year of age but then recommends in most cases not letting the child out until the tantrum ends)--at age five he hasn't gone past six or seven minutes of a tantrum, although as the book suggests, I had to make it so the door couldn't open from the inside with the plastic covering you put on the handle. I felt terrible doing this, but he was just walking out of the room during time out or I was forced to sit outside and hold the door shut! I now leave the door open if he stays inside the room, and it still works. Overall, I recommend this book and discipline method. My husband and I were shocked how we went from shouting and frustration to calm, effective counting. It really works.