The Couple's Survival Workbook: What You Can Do To Reconnect With Your Partner and Make Your Marriage Work

I am a volunteer marriage counselor and I love to see the light bulbs go off when I introduce the concept of the “3rd person” in their marriage being their “Predictable Conflict Pattern”. As soon as they understand that, they begin to recognize why their conversations about legitimate complaints are Constantly getting off track...over, and over, and over again! Once they recognize that “third” person has entered the conversation/conflict it’s easier to regroup, link arms and kick that unwelcome intruder to the curb!

After 25 years of marriage who knew we could be even more enlightened about our significant other! Would highly recommend to all years of marriage or even before marriage or even thinking about marriage! There are no biases towards male or female in this book, which makes you keep an open mind as you read!

This book is excellent. It is designed using the same theories as Glassner theory of belief systems that is used in Reality Therapy , a method used by educators to help students. The book focuses on learning about your beliefs so you can learn about how they influenced you relationship. I wouldn't just reccommend this to those with Marrital problems but for people who plan to get or are just married. It won't be your marriage but you will start to understand who you are, how you learned what you believe, what to do to work on managing those beliefs and how to work as a team with your spouse.

Still married. Years later. The book gave us the tools to work through things in life.

This is the first 'self-help' book i've purchased and i loved it. I just read through it, i didn't write anything down in the exercises but will when i go through it a second time.What brought me to purchase this workbook is the fact that it's about changing ME not about changing my husband (tried and failed). Other books seemed like they focused too much on the 'couple' aspect and working together, which would have frustrated me more because my husband doesn't like reading or talking about anything too heavy (unless it's absolutely necessary). This has really changed my perspective on things. It's a book i will always keep because it's a great reference. Highly recommend!

My husband and I are on chapter three and we have enjoyed it so far. The book says to read it independently because it does focus on you changing yourself not your partner but we read the chapter together but answer questions separately then discuss at end of chapter. It has helped us so far to break up and simplify some of the issues we are working on. Chapters are a little long and wordy but other than that a good workbook so far.

The best couples workbook I’ve found. Good examples and helpful exercises for couples to identify their behavioral and thought patterns to improve their relationship.

This book is just superb...high praise & grateful thanks to the authors & clients who helped with their input....the last page really says it all....acceptance lowers anxiety immediately. I think every woman (&man) should read this book, so, so helpful for relationships where anger is a problem (or any communication difficulty for that matter). I have a plethora of self-help books, this one tops them all! Have your own copy of this book & your relationship will change...for the better!

Helpful for couples who aren’t too far gone.. for lack of a better term