Changes That Heal: Four Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You

I just completed reading this book! I cannot tell you how much this has changed my life, my outlook, my feelings and even lead me into faith. I did not know who God even was until I started to really read in this book and referencing the Bible. For such a long time I didn't feel seen, heard or even cared about. This book helped open all those doors and I started my path to healing. I have recommended it to every member of my blood family (I hope they read it) and I bought both the book and workbook for my boyfriend. ❤️ I feel like I can finally grow into an adult and recognize the talents and path I am supposed to be on. 10/10. Have and will continue to recommend. Thank you so much for this book. 💗

What a brilliant book. Thank you Dr. cloud. This book is deep. It’s life changing. It’s a challenge. I found myself rejecting reading it. I had to push myself. Every word every thing Dr. cloud said I needed to hear. I had to force myself to study the material. Master it. Apply it. Keep at it. Pray to god to help me.It was divided in 1. The balance of grace + truth + time2. Bonding: we need to bond. Why we don’t. What to do.3. Boundaries: we need boundaries. Why we don’t have any. What to do.4. balance good and bad5. Adulthood: becoming mature adults. Why we don’t. Why we live a one up- one down situation in life always. The role of passage of adolescence has. If we didn’t go thru the developmental stages we never grew up. We struggle with authority. We find partners that become our parents. Etc.. all because we didn’t go through the stages we were supposed to go through.What to do: change these patterns. Keep at it. Work on them. Practice. Grow and heal.What a brilliant book.Please read it will change your life. 🙏🤍✨

Great book and in great condition

Dr. Henry Cloud in his introduction, explains that he did not set out to write this book. Rather it was an extension of his ministry and the encouragement of many who benefited from the ministry and wished that he would expand its scope.Most revealing in the introduction into this material is the observation that within Christianity is a broad section which seems to espouse the idea that Christians who suffer from issues such as depression, relationship deficiencies, sexual dysfunction etc are somehow in sin and to blame for their issues simply because they have not laid claim to the healing available to them in Christ.This viewpoint is not all that different than those in the past who have applied the same reasoning to those who are physically ill with issues like cancer, diabetes etc and have failed to lay hold of the same healing that is promised to varying degrees. Great damage came from this form of absolute intolerant thinking. Equal and perhaps greater harm comes from the application of this same erroneous thinking to the softer field of human emotions and thought processes.While the latter form of absolute thinking has diminished and more grace and understanding have been extended within all but the most extreme factions within the Church, unfortunately this same attitude prevails far too often within the mainstream of the Church for reasons that this reviewer can only attribute to the fact that these issues are less visible and that many who espouse them do so from ignorance and the discomfort that these situations can bring.Dr. Cloud's book does an outstanding job of explaining the causative roots of many of these issues to where those who suffer from them as well as those who have difficulty accepting or understanding them can benefit greatly without having to reject or discount the truths of Christianity.Addressing the issue progressively with an explanation of how psychological growth can get out of sync with physical growth and then specifically addressing the issues of bonding, separating, developing values and then maturing, gives footholds to understanding that help the individual identify where they need to work and the Church as a whole know how to provide the understanding and support that draws the Church into a loving and accepting community rather than a judgemental and exclusive society of only those who are without problems.Far too often the fruits of the field of psychology are rejected by the community of faith. Dr. Cloud does an outstanding job of bringing the two together in a manner that promotes understanding and growth without watering down the importance of spirituality.Appropriate for those seeking help as well as those who seek to better understand how to extend it.

Through reading Dr. Cloud's well-written book, I've been able to understand that I'm responsible for "owning" what's mine (emotions, thoughts, actions, reactions, etc.). For example, I'm responsible for my happiness and for my reactions to the way others treat me. It also has shown me that I'm not responsible for what others "own"; my actions may cause someone's upset, but that upset is not my responsibility - it's theirs. It seems totally elemental - and it probably is to people who aren't carrying around injuries from their past. But if you come from a past that includes abuse of any kind (physical, emotional, mental, verbal, sexual, abandonment, neglect, etc.) it's harder to know where to draw the lines.Dr. Cloud's book clearly explains the importance of ownership, bonding and boundaries (both creating your own and respecting other's). There are examples that are relatable and the language is clear, concise and "plain English" - not a bunch of medical mumbo-jumbo.I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to live a life free of emotional and verbal clutter and unnecessary baggage. The Bible tells us in Matthew 5:37 to let our yes mean yes, and our no mean no - Dr. Cloud's book helped me to understand more clearly what this means.

I used the workbook and book to facilitate a women’s group that helps identify where we need to improve in self and relationships. The group , I felt, only need the workbook. The book helpful to me to get a broader picture.

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This is truly a great book to have.

Everyone should read this book!

I don't blame it all on the parents although my own were bad enough to be jailed for over five years.Too many mothers that don't really want their babies in the first place.Mine tried to kill be before I was born as well as my youngest sister. I was there and aware for the second one.Personally I have mixed feelings about abortion.I would have much rather been in the hands of a loving God than in the hands of my parents.I'm still reading. I read a little and absorb and process. Halfway through. Will update later.It is very helpful in understanding the lifelong problem I've had with bonding to anyone.

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A must read book ...