The Limerent Mind: How to Permanently Beat Limerence and Shine (Limerence Recovery Book 1)

I came across this book by going to Lucy’s blog and seeing the notification about this book being available. I’ve read a few limerence entries on her blog before and considered it the best limerence help one can find on the internet. Immediately, I became excited about the book. Myself and a few friends of mine share this predisposition to limerence and although I’m currently free of it, I wanted to hear some more information and insights, especially coming from a neuroscience expert.I was pleased the price for Kindle ebook was affordable and got it. The book is short and one should be able to read it in short time. I’m not a slow reader, but it took me a lot of time to go through the book. Some paragraphs i had to reread a few times for the revelations to sink in. Every 10-20 pages i had to stop and pounder about my ways. Some of my thoughts were not comfortable, but the process of healing clearly crafted by Lucy took place and I came out from reading it a changed person. Fully optimistic about my next direction of my life.Lucy’s message is incredibly uplifting and motivating to change. She is a charismatic person and it comes through her writing. Her writing style is exquisitely beautiful but easy to understand. She is able to blend scientific information into easy to understand prose that is intermingled with spiritual values and deep human compassion and it’s fascinating to read. When I was near the end of the ebook. I was genuinely sad that this comes to end soon. Just like a wonderful vacation trip when it’s ending. This book moved me and touched me like no other book. Lucy’s intimate knowledge of Limerant personality made me feel she wrote it just for me after knowing me all my life. It's like the book is all about me. It's like the owner manual for humans (at least some humans) we should have had it all the time but nature didn't give it to us.I recommend this book for anyone who is in the mids of limerence, or who knows someone affected by limerence, but also for some of us who overcame limerence, but still harbor hidden limerent tendencies inside. I didn’t even know I had them, but my experience with the book showed otherwise.In summary, the $9.99 bought me a window into myself, a spiritual journey, healing experience better than any psychoterapy sessions I aver had, and a priceless feeling of a connection with a fellow human being who is caring and wants to help countless suffering souls.I sent the link to the ebook to some of my friends and encouraged them to read the free introductory content to see if they want to purchase the book for themselves. Some liked it a lot, but one person did not. I guess YMMV and try the free content first to try it out.As for me, I’m hooked on Lucy’s writing and looking forward to any more books she may have in the pipeline.Despite a few cons, I’m so impressed, I’m giving the book all 5 stars.Summary.Pros:Easy and enjoyable to read, beautifully written, very helpful, uplifting, a spiritual experience (at least for me).Cons:Short text and few references. Not everyone likes her style of expression.

The topic of limerence is a revelation. It's critical for those who have ever felt trapped by their feelings for someone.Pros: Author is very knowledgeable, educated, and speaks from experience.The explanations are comprehensive, covering mind, body and spirit.The techniques explored are tried, tested, proven, and they WORK.I'm already a better person after starting this journey of recovery.Cons:This book is desperate for a good editor. It is rife with typos. It's a shame that this work was self published without editing because the material is so vital and useful.The writing can be a tad hard to follow at times. It's inconsistent in tone. It sounds like a doctoral dissertation at times. Some of the section organization is questionable.Overall this was an excellent and enlightening read. I wish i had known about this 20 years ago. Please be patient with the shortcomings i mentioned before. It's worth it.

This is an excellent book and anyone suffering from limerence should definitely read it.A lot of other authors will suggest you go no contact, which definitely can help, but does not always solve the problem. I have known of people to have this condition for seven years or more with someone they no longer are in contact with. again, I love this author and this book, the only thing is, they are really no solutions in it. It’s just that visualization, and Hypnosis don’t really work in my opinion.If you can somehow create a rich and fulfilling life without Your limerent object, I believe you will be able to move past this debilitating condition.

Where has this book been my entire adult life?Such an important work. I finally feel seen, not broken or damaged.I’ve been struggling silently with this my entire adult life and the 1-2 people I’ve ever described this to made me feel judged, broken and obsessive rather than neurodivergent. this book offers a different perspective on the struggle.It’s so important to people who are struggling in the middle…I’m there now and was desperate to find a way to feel better. I plowed through this book in one day and it has already changed my life. Gave me the ability to see this from another more self-compassionate perspective and how to unhook from the addiction that feels so real.My only wish was that there were more examples of personality types that hook you as triggers and what it likely points to as the unmet need.I'm unclear on my unmet needs that these people come along and temporarily fill; I'm drawn to warm, calm, stable types. Maybe I need to accept myself wholly, allow myself to be more warm and vulnerable and see more value in myself. I’m unclear… I see the path out after finishing this book, but would love more clarity between trigger types and the typical associated unmet needs as I’m struggling with clarity around my exact unmet needs. If I had more clarity on my needs and how to start filling them, I could really feel better so much faster.

This book really was the help that I needed. Thank you Lucy Bain for taking the time to share your knowledge.

This book is al about selfhypnosis and affirmations and I find those solutions not very helpfull. However I do recommend this book: it gives great insights in your limerence and yourself, far more than any other book or website that I have read on this subject.

This book is so engaging. As a limerent phenotype, I devoured the pages and analyzed every sentence. This book answers so many questions I have asked myself over decades. One key point that shouldn't be taken lightly is the affirmation that this condition causes such mental agony but seems so irrational and intense that one makes every effort to hide it, which compounds the deep feelings of shame. The shame and guilt, especially when already in a committed relationship with someone else only compound the agony. Very grateful for this book!!

This is a very well articulated book on an issue that is very hard to understand (till you read the book of course). The author has given deep insight into the factors that drive limerence and make it the maddening, debilitating issue that it is. The advice given to overcome limerence is also different and more permanent than the typical "go NC" advice that you find on the internet. Finally and most importantly, the book gives you hope that if you work on rewiring your innermost wants, needs and how you want to live life, limerence can be shut down completely.Great book and extremely uplifting to say the least. 5 stars to the author!

You have nothing to lose - buy this book.It's not just helpful for Limerence, this book is useful for OCD and the subsequent Anxiety/ depression that comes with it. As a sufferer of OCD/ Anxiety/ depression my whole adult life, I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me mentally and why I kept getting so over-attached to people who I perceived didn't treat me well and the subsequent devastating highs and lows that accompany that type of attachment. After researching co-dependence and other addictions, Limerence seemed like it might fit too and this book gave me the basis for trying to figure out the steps needed to 'fix' myself. This book gives you an understanding of the brain on a deep, physiological, level. What I enjoyed most about this book is that it tells you that your brain can and will change, if you want it to and are willing to put in the necessary work to do so - that is exactly what I needed to be told.As a person who loves trying to figure myself out, It seemed to speak to me directly with a lot of the past trauma/ unresolved psychological issues and the plan and tips within it I've been following for nearly a month now. I'm happy to say that I am feeling so much better in myself, not as 'bothered' by things that used to really trigger me and finally seeing my life and my connections as they really are; not how I just want them to be.It would be useful to have at the end of the book or at the end of each chapter, a bullet pointed list of 'action points' to work on as some of the sections are quite wordy. I went through the book and made an action list myself.To reach recovery, you have to be fully committed to change and fully committed to engaging in your own life - You won't be disappointed with this book if you are willing to put in the work to live your best life, free from the highs and lows of ill fated attachments be it romantic or plutonic.