Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal

I'm a marriage counselor, and treating infidelity is notoriously difficult because of the challenges helping people hold themselves accountable, and tolerating the strong emotions and ambivalence without harmful blame. Until this book, that is. Validating toward both partners, the author gives a clear outline of how to rebuild trust after betrayal. More than a self help book, it encourages the clients to do the work with a counselor so nothing is missed in this important process.

Finally the view from a partner first model that supports the betrayed partner as well as the “participating partner.” A new paradigm in the healing of betrayal from sex addiction. The experts supported in the acknowledgment are more sources which are helpful to repair and healing. This book offers tools for both partners to have recovery.

It's so helpful to have a book that outlines a recovery process for the coupleship. Each step is clearly defined and helps couples through the Disclosure Process, the Impact Letter Process, and Emotional Restitution Process which then provides a sound basis from which to repair the relationship. Creating common goals, inner circle behaviors and future stories all make this an excellent workbook to use in therapy. Finding a therapist who understands betrayal trauma and addiction are keys to recovering a relationship, and this book is the tool that has it all in one place. Thanks for writing this one, Dr. Carnes :)

As a CSAT, my training included lots of information about the importance of well planned disclosure. At the same time, when it came time to apply my knowledge, it feel at times overwhelming, even though I was trained and certified. But now, Stefanie provides CSAT's this most practical workbook that makes the work so much easier for both the therapist and the the couple, since clear work sheets are provided for both the betraying partner and the betrayed partner. This is a masterful medley of eloquent insights and practical examples for the work of Full Disclosure.Kosta Petrogeorge, CSAT

I just received this book and already it's promising. I have thumbed through it and there is tools in there my H and I will be able to use and continue healing in our marriage. My H is committed to this process and has also started reading it to me, hopeful.

This book really hurts you and loves you at the same time

I purchased this after going through the J Caudill/D. Drake Full Disclosure workbooks with our therapist. This seems very thorough, and is a shorter version it seems, of the series I bought. If you go this route, buy one for each of you to doo separately and together.

I read your book over the last three days. It is outstanding. I believe it is the best resource available in the field for partners and also a great resource for the "participating partner". -Ralph H. Earle, PhD, LMFT, ABPP