No Breakup Can Break You: The Definitive Recovery Guide for Men Paperback – May 19, 2019

Classic stereotypes portray guys as ironclad creatures incapable of feeling hurt, showing emotions or shedding tears. What is more, should a man be rejected, he shall find himself alcohol and women and exercise and just *get over it*. After all, what is a woman, but a fickle and shallow creature man cannot hope to understand?This book eviscerates those stereotypes, because everyone knows that they are not true. Feelings of rejection affect us all in different, but also common ways, and Nick Dawson's book here not only identifies these effects, but helps you cope with them, and most importantly, understand and learn from them.It begins with a review of common symptoms and the treatments thereof. Psychology is used to explain some of these, with an interesting biological perspective, and then shifts gears to coping and improvement. Several kinds of advice are given: exercise, socialization, avoiding self-flagellation and negative thinking. The advices are good and carefully thought of - and not self-evident. Throughout the book valid references are given, most of them scientific, to support the arguments.The most crucial part is how optimistic the book and its author are: it can objectively show that a breakup can be a learning experience, from which lessons can be used in the future to have even better relationships. The optimistic viewpoint also serves to make the reader feel instantly better: not only is the text humorous, though not overtly so, Dawson shows that it's not the end of the world. And many of us feel like it is. By the end of the book, the cogency of Dawson's argument gets clear. It will get better, you will get better. The road there is tough and full of thorns, but it is not infinite. Such optimism is necessary at a terrible time, and it is well given, and well received.It is the optimistic attitude of the author that commands admiration. He went through a tough time and has this book to show of it: a vivacious demonstration that positive thinking is the way forward. I thank him for it, as he has given a clear, carefully distilled recipe on how to recover from a life-changing event.Highly recommended.

I rarely write reviews. But, after reading this book in about 4 hours on 2 planes I decided I would share my honest opinion to help others going through the pain of breakup.I have read several books on the subject after 15 year marriage dissolved. Most books are very matter of fact and "sterile", often written my Dr. types or academics. If you read one of those...you have read them all.This author is a breath of fresh air. It is hard to explain why. I think, first, it is because it is written by a man for men. These books are rare. I guess that no profit-centric author would deliberately exclude half of the market by writing to just men. Nick did. It works (well, for me, but maybe not so much for his pockets). The author also writes with humor. The kind of humor that sheds light on the somewhat pitiful nature of our situation, yet with respect for the pain we are going through. He also does a very good job of explaining how we are somewhat "wired" to want to make poor decisions and choices early in the breakup process. This, to me, was new and refreshing - and it took the "personal" nature away from the way I often feel.There were a couple of "filler" chapters that should have been left out. It diminished from the core book. For example, I know that staying fit and healthy is good for me and why. We all do. Yes, mention it in a sentence...maybe 2...but leave the rest for a diet or stress book.However, overall this was the best book I have read on the subject. If you can read one of these types of book and get just 1 or 2 things from it, they are worth it. From this book I got a half-dozen good pointers and learned more about the historical reasons for "the feeling" of breakup than all the other books combined.With that said, I highly recommend this book. And, Nick is a good writer. May he continue. I would read other things he pens, irrespective of the subject matter.

The writing is superb. Im a big big fan of the style, and the information - apart from the flowery "You can reach your full potential fluff" is spot on.The only reason why I marked off one star is because i think while the info in the book is solid, it's too simple. I think the whole work lacks a bit of deph at times. But all in all, a great read.

Fun, quick read for the fellas out there going through a divorce or breakup. Inspiring and motivational but not loaded with cliches, and I loved the author's humorous approach.

I just finished reading this book in one sitting. After being served for divorce by my wife last week, I feel completely crushed. I truly thought she was going to work it out with me, and I was totally surprised by her move to pursue divorce. This was a woman who continuously told me she loved me unconditionally, that I was her soulmate, the love of her life. I've been in a very bad place since we separated (3 weeks ago), and I felt I was going to start doing things that were not good for me. I finally decided to see if there was something I could read that could help me gain perspective and ran across this book. After reading all the reviews I decided to give it a try, and lo and behold, it was EXACTLY what I needed! While I am still crushed, I now have hope...This book gave me the necessary kick in the a*** I needed to actually write down the things I need to do. My heart still aches, and honestly, I still sense a tiny little voice inside of me that hopes that she'll change her mind, but now at least I have a plan of action and I am going to force myself to live and not let this break-up define me. This book gets right to the point - it is not preachy - actually it is very kind and you can totally tell that Nick has gone through the same thing I am going through, almost to a T. I definitely recommend this book to anyone that is in a very bad place, and need a soothing voice to help you through the pain.