Getting Through to the Man You Love: The No-Nonsense, No-Nagging Guide for Women

She is really firmly mired in heteronormativism, but I like Michele Weiner Davis. Her books do tend to use the same examples over and over, but she does make different points in each book, all under the theme that you have to do things differently if you want your relationships to change. This book can get frustrating, because (and she points this out herself) that there is a lot of generalising about men, and what men are like, so you have to suss out what applies to your situation. But I feel as though her books have really helped me understand some of the patterns going on between myself and other people in my life.

This book is like my marriage bible. I refer to it again and again. I bought it for a bridal shower gift for my daughter and told her to tuck it away in a handy place so that when things get a little bumpy in her marriage, she has a reference and support to turn to with answers and methods that will give her tools to work things out. I identified so strongly with the author. It was as if she lived in our house and watched what was going on. She made me laugh and gave me confidence and hope for turning things around when I felt helpless. And best of all, her advise works every time. It has even been fun to try out things differently than the way I had always handled them. It was like playing a game and winning!

Absolutely terrible book with terrible, outdated, one-sided advice. The author assumes so many negative qualities inherent in women and men. Opt instead for Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. That book has a realistic approach to address the major issues all relationships grapple with. This one was terrible.

Women are more in control of their relationships than they think they are. Michele Weiner-Davis focuses on practical ways you can change yourself in order to change your relationship for the better.If you feel like you've been given a life sentence in a passionless relationship, you fight all the time or you can't get your husband to talk to you, this book offers a number of excellent ideas. Michele Weiner-Davis really understands how men and women function on all sorts of levels. She encourages women to be patient and to try her techniques numerous times until success is reached.This is my second time reading this book and I can see how some of the ideas have improved my life over time. One thing she emphasizes is that men respond better to action than conversations. When you talk less, things can really start to improve. Like if you fight all the time when you get into the car - try not talking and see what happens. Sometimes men just get tired of constant conversations and just want to "be" with their partner.While she doesn't really mention this, telling a man everything that went wrong with your day might also be a bad idea. This book will teach you how to be a more desirable woman so your man will respond to you in a much more positive way.Instead of focusing on the negatives in your relationship, Michele Weiner-Davis encourages women to seek new and creative ways to interact with their man. I think if you take this book seriously it could benefit you greatly. You just have to be willing to change a little to get the desired results. This is one of those books you should read once a year to create lasting change. The only idea I didn't agree with is the author's advice to rent certain types of movies for your man. But apart from that she gives very good advice.~ The Rebecca Review

Good book

This was a great book!! It really helps you stop and see what you may be doing to destroy your own relationship. Sometimes you need to stop and look in the mirror. I have suggested this book to several of my friends.

The author is right and her book is a refreshing read. This is an action book and you can easily use her advice to change some of the things that need changing in your relationships. Interestingly enough, this book is on my shelf right next to Karen Pryor's Don't Shoot the Dog - both are great books on how to shape and change behavior... and they're both well grounded.

I read this book cover to cover in 3 nights before going to sleep. I plan to read it through again, and try to use the suggestions that are given. Ms. Weiner-Davis does impart a sense of being there for you and genuinely wanting to help. Some of the suggestions are very original, others, I'm not sure how one could ever follow through with these and not get into some major conflict with your spouse.Ms. Weiner-Davis presents herself as someone I would love to have for my own family therapist- she's very personable and funny. The book may not save my marriage, but I have learned some valuable actions that can be taken to change the unhealthy patterns a relationship can fall into.

Great book, great advice, fun to read!It helped my tremendously. Not just letting me know that Im not alone in my trouble but showing me the way how to deal with men. How to accept that we think differently and how to love them for who they are. Because we really are different and accepting that changes a lot.

not much help in my case