The Guys-Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce and With Life, Sex, and Relationships (Guys-Only Guides)

I checked this book out of the library and am now buying it after reading a couple of chapters because I want it back on the library shelf to help more chumps like me.It is written by guys who know divorce and the agonies we go through. It tells us how to act and why and how not to act and why for the benefit of both ourselves and our kids. It says that time is absolutly on our side and helps us to get to that better day with integrity and resilience. It is not watered down pablum. It is strong medicine for our devastated psyches.Mark

Good Book

Excellent book. I recommend it to any man considering divorce, going through a divorce, or recently divorced. I give it four stars instead of five only because I think there should be an entire chapter (if not a book) dedicated discussing the fact that once a woman has made up her mind that the marriage is over, it's too late. The author mentions this & discusses it thoroughly (if succinctly), but, everyone with whom I've discussed this has said the same thing: by the time your wife tells you she's done, your marriage is over. There is no "winning her back." Forget saving it. Put it out of your mind, & focus on getting through divorce as quickly & cheaply as possible. IMO, this phenomena alone - that men tend to ignore or misunderstand the signals from their spouse that their marriage is headed towards disaster - warrants a much closer look, simply because it tends to be the most shocking thing for guys. "What do you mean it's over?" (Just that: it's over. Done. Finito.) "Can we talk about it?" (No; that ship has sailed.) "Why don't we try counseling?" (Again, no: it's over. That ship has also sailed.) "But I love you & I'll do anything to save the marriage!" (Forget it. There is nothing to save, because once she has decided it is over, it is over. You'll only end up looking pathetic. You have a marriage on paper only, and now you need to figure out the quickest & cheapest way to get a judge to sign off on another piece of paper saying you're no longer married.)Great book. Recommended.

Does not cover the areas for my divorce and suggestions for movin-on after divorce are inadequate

Question and answer style works great. As a psychologist I have recommended this book to several men. All of them have thanked me for the recomendation - some have read it cover to cover multiple times.

My sons book but his mother bought a copy and thought it a good book

I am a Board Certified Family Law attorney in Tarrant County, TX. I have been in practice 28 years and I have had over a thousand of male clients. There is not one of these clients that would not have befitted from this book. The advice is so good, at least the part that relates to the legal aspects of separation and divorce. The rest of the advice appears to be very good as well, however I am limited in evaluating some of it due to my gender. Actually, a number of the chapters women need to be reading as well.I would recommend that you purchase this book and read it as early as you come across it, whether or not you think you will actually seek divorce. The beginning chapters of the book, if taken to heart, might actually avoid an unwanted divorce.Regarding the legal aspects of divorce-The law tells us how to divide "stuff" and allocate debts, how to divide parenting time and parenting decisions. But you know, it doesn't deal with the fact that the major component of divorce is relational . . . and emotional. This book is very good in explaining the emotional aspects and response options into making sound legal decisions.There is so much information on the legal process and co-parenting that reading this before seeking an attorney will give you a better chance of understanding what result you want in your divorce. (This is not as easy as you might think) It will also assist in selecting an attorney whose goals are better aligned with yours. Buser and Sternes are conversational in imparting the information. (The book is based on Q and A) And, they say so much that I tell my clients. I would be happy if my clients had been exposed to this type of advice before they see me. People pay thousands of dollars for divorce and modification legal services. I recommend spending under twenty dollars and your time in order to maximize the effectiveness of your legal decisions.The brain needs to hear the same message several times in order to "get it". Buy the book, read it, read it again several times through the process.

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