Leadership Passages: The Personal and Professional Transitions That Make or Break a Leader

As best summarized by the authors: "We have selected thirteen passages to describe in this book...we have chosen the thirteen that senior leaders mention most often and describe as particularly compelling or intense. If you work ling enough, you will experience many of these passages, perhaps all of them. When you do, you will find them to be emotionally, intellectually, and even spiritually intense. And they are passages because as the world indicates, they take you from one place to another you see the world and yourself differently after you've gone through the events and emotional states that define each passage...Our goal is to help you understand, learn from, and navigate the passages successfully. If you do, you will dramatically increase your leadership effectiveness. If you don't, you'll risk bypassing the most important leadership development experience you can face: your own life."Below are key excerpts from the book that summarize the main points:1- "Although, everyone experiences adversity and diversity in unique ways, the general nature of these experiences can be predicted and prepared for. When you know the passages you will encounter, you're better able to maximize their value as learning tools...they're organized according to the four quadrants of the matrix: (1) diversity of work experiences, (2) work adversity, (3) diversity of life experiences, and (4) life adversity."2- "Ultimately, the way we use our skills, obtain results, or establish relationships is contingent on our internal awareness of who we are. If we're blind to our weak spots, they're bound to trip us up."3- "Without a failure or two along the way, leaders never have to move out of their comfort zones, adjust their identities, or develop their capacity for compassion...Failure, though, can also deepen you. It gives you a sense of your own fallibility and forces you to reassess your point of view."4- "Companies therefore need to be proactive in helping their new executives deal with this passage; the first thing they should do is counsel them on the implicit rules of the culture and how to maximize the impact of their entry and minimize the cultural upheaval...follow this five-step method to learn and grow as you move through the passage: 1) Identify the gap between the company's intention and your experience...2) Focus on your boss and learn to read him accurately...3) Build a coalition that stretches throughout the organization...4) Diagnose the culture yourself...5) Create a time-focused vision of what you want to accomplish."5- "Challenges for First-Time leaders: 1) Losing an Identity...2) Seeing your Star Dim...3) Balancing People and Tasks. The Normality of Struggle: 1) Reflect and talk about the feedback your receive...2) Heed your instincts...3) Make the time to focus on people...4) Grasp the network of influence and politics...5) Don't abuse your power. 6) Do the right thing, but don't be convinced you always know what the right thing is."6- "The Role of Paradox in Business: 1) Value the unfamiliar...2) Display a hang-in-there mentality...3) Accept the paradoxical nature of work."7- "Four Dos in Dealing with Failure: 1) Examine your decisions that catalyzed the failure...2) Talk to your boss, a coach, or some other trusted adviser about this incident...3) Reflect on what you might do differently in the future...4) Summon the energy to persevere."8- "A bad boss or peer is a reverse role model - one you can use to guide yourself away from counterproductive actions and attitudes. To take advantage of these three learnings, we recommend the following steps: 1) Choose an interpersonal strategy to manage the relationship...2) Ask yourself what your reaction to a boss or peer says about you...3) Define your values."9- "How to Grow from Being Diminished: 1) Refuse to allow the event define you...2) Understand why it happened...3) Use your support network...4) Develop a "what next" strategy."10- "Learning More Than How To Keep Your Job (in an M&A): 1) Figure out new rules quickly and start playing by them...2) Remain a strong leader despite your sense of vulnerability...3) Transcend the politics while focusing on the mission...4) Maintain an open mind...5) Create a new network. Growing as a Company Changes: 1) Determine if you should remain with the new company... 2) Work at assessing and expressing how you feel about the merger or acquisition...3) Reconnect to the company...4) Keep the lines of communication open with your direct reports...5) Be patient."11- "How to Take Advantage of a Once-in-a-Lifetime Opportunity (living in a different country or culture)...1) Adopt an adventurer's mind-set...2) Learn first; teach second...3) Function effectively without knowing the rules or how to behave."12- "Finding a Meaningful Balance Between Work and Family...1) Let your values be your work-family guide. 2) Involve your partner early on in your decisions about work and family...3) Monitor your attitude towards success."13- "How to Manage Upheaval: 1) Reveal your vulnerabilities...2) Be authentic...3) Accept fate and move on."14- "Leadership Development Is About Experiences: 1) Stretch assignments 2) Education 3) Key Relationships 4) Outside activities 5) Coaching 6) Diverse experiences 7) Living abroad 8) Feedback 9) Selection and Staffing."15- "An Eight-Step Survive-And-Thrive Guide: 1) Learn Resilience...2) Accept Personal Responsibility...3) Reflect...4) Seek support from your partner, family, friends, and professionals...5) Develop and Use a Professional Network...6) Seek Refuge...7) Gain Perspective...8) Take Risks."16- "The thirteen predictable, intense passages can certainly be stressful, confusing, and emotionally volatile periods in your life. They are also the foundation with which you can become stronger, more humane, and more effective leader. With insight, reflection, and a strong dose of self-forgiveness, you can turn the experiences of your life and career into personal growth for yourself and for others."

This book focuses on an interesting premise- that leadership is significantly developed by key experiences and the person's reactions to them. Many of the key experiences need to be actively sought out and accepted such as accepting a stretch assignment or living in a different country. Others are often a matter of time such as joining a new company, coping with a bad boss, or facing personal upheaval. Another- dealing with failure- is in between with an element of decision in choosing to take risks and stretch oneself, and an element of time. What links all these experiences together is that they must be dealt with honestly in order to learn from them. The book does a good job of presenting these ideas and more, with examples of people who have gone through the passages- some successful, others not. While few will agree with everything presented, it raises good questions and should be appreciated for that.

I wish I read this book before I coached at a large company! A great and very practical book to understand the different passages that leaders are going through, and need to go through in order to grow through failure, transitions like merging, or personal setbacks like loss of a spouse, divorce, etc. 13 Passages are selected and worked through, with real stories of leaders and how they responded to their transition periods.Understanding the power of transition as a passage to another chapter in our stories, we build resilience and wisdom to grow further.Some good practices for coaches to use and any one coaching leaders on all levels of management.

One of the most practical books on leadership that I've ever read.I am retired now, but I'd been a CEO for three successful companies. For two of them I was in charge of their start up in Argentina (AT&T Capital and Prudential). With that background, I have no doubts reading "Passages" will very much help to develop strong leadership skills.

A leader in my company suggested this book as I potentially took on my own stretch assignment. I found it very interesting to see how I already naturally do some of the suggested things but also learned many new things.

A light reader with diagnostics and Rx that is heavily oriented to senior leaders' career peaks and waves but it has great personal advice for aspiring leaders' and mid careerist's leadership tool box. Also, valuable advice for organizational leaders that shape high performance work cultures. If you buy into life long learning philosophy - this book is for you. If you think learning is for the birds. . .I recommend you still get it - it might open your mind to a new and re-focused you.

If you reflect on the parts of this book you can't help but find balance ideas and purpose in your life and direction

Excellent book for those going through any type of transition (passage).