Divorce Wars: A Field Guide to the Winning Tactics, Preemptive Strikes, and Top Maneuvers When Divorce Gets Ugly

The wonderful divorce expert Cathy Meyer on About.com recommends this book. I've read a lot of books in the divorce genre over the past year or so and this is one of the very best. Mr. Levine's obvious command of the subject makes this, well, under the circumstances I'm not sure I could say it's a "joy" to read, but it's certainly important to read this if you are so unfortunate as to be caught up in a divorce, whether you initiated it or not.There is quite a bit about child custody here. Although that’s not an issue in my situation, even those discussions shed light on the process and helped me think creatively about my situation. So if you do get the book (get the book!) read it cover to cover. Every page has a useful insight into the process or a compelling suggestion on strategy. I have a very good lawyer, but I really learned so much from this book (it’s also way way way cheaper than an hour with your lawyer). Just because you know a subject from the inside out, doesn’t mean you can describe it well to those looking in. But Levine is a graceful writer. With his authoritative grasp of his home turf, he guides us into the belly of the beast. Like the best tour guides, he offers not only specific facts but also evokes the whole of the world, its black holes and its escape routes.I also really appreciated his principled stance. I know, what am I saying, principled--c'mon, we’re talking about a divorce lawyer here! Perhaps I was just snowed, as I allowed myself to be with my ex (don’t get me started). But I do think Levine has a real, beating heart.

I went through a very unpleasant divorce several years ago. I bought this book part way through the process. Amazingly, I found that my ex-husband seemed to be using it as his guide through the process. He had used almost every dirty trick in the book on me.Now my daughter is going through a divorce. Her husband's attorney is really playing dirty. I bought this book for her to use. Since reading it she has turned the situation around. She has and still is playing fair, however, now she understands how to deal with the more vicious aspects of this attorney's bag of tricks.

We purchased this for our son who's going through a divorce where he's been in an abusive marriage with temporary sole custody of this infant son. This book is very insightful and provides basic and valueable information which is useful in developing strategies with your attorney. Not only did our son find it useful, but we did too! We recommend anyone going through a divorce, especially Dads though saddened that anyone has to go through such an expensive ordeal.

It arrived super fast. This book seems to be more for before you even get a laywer. There is good info in here and it has helped me out.

Save your money if you are without minor children, and even then, this slanted toward the father being a victim. I was looking for general advice, going through a divorce after 24 years. Total waste of my time. Tried going back a second time to re-read and the perception was the same. It is in the trash.

Insightful

At least Leving finally abandoned the openly misogynistic "fathers' rights" movement and he offers some sound advice as far as it goes, but those going through an acrimonious divorce are far more likely to apply it to their estranged spouses than to recognize it in their own behavior. Besides, anyone who would read a self-help book in the midst of a divorce is just the sort of sanctimonious prig you'd love to sue the hell out of.

A good book to help with some of the crazy and nasty things that go on during a divorce. Has a lot of practical advice on how to remain in control, and distance yourself from some of the emotional trauma of the divorce process. Tips on how to negotiate more effectively and to reduce power struggles that will lengthen out the process. Helpful.

I am currently separated going through divorce. This book is a piece of art. It helped me realize the mistakes I made since we separated and never do them again. It explains in detail many common mistakes people make during the divorce process that would make the outcome other than what you hope for, and it provides advice on how to avoid such mistakes, and how to deal with them if the spouse made them. I recommend this book to everyone.